Being You

Guide  to Self-Discovery.

'When being you is what you have to be'

From where I come from the terms- me, myself and I is marked as being selfish whether it is used in speech or in text. No one is interested in the real you, but they want honesty when they have dealings with you. Such irony?

Do you have the slightest idea of what you really are? I'm not saying I want to know your secret but, can you give me a rundown of what makes you, you?

My Philosophical friend will say, the past, 'the past makes me who I am'. May be?  But let's move on.

In this digital era,it's like our life is on a fast-forward, before you know it, we've left our parents house, gained admission, graduated, already working, married and start having children and the same cycle repeats itself over and over again. But when life happens we start to question everything and everyone- your work, family, friends and even relationships. You begin to see the fault in everything, what about yourself? 

Being you is a wonder you allow your body and soul experience after having a vivid perception of your thoughts, emotions and what your reflection on life is generally. Having an understanding of what or who you are provides an edge on tackling challenges and setbacks. Your psychologist can only persuade but the real process to self discovery lies with you. Here's a guide to how I discovered myself;

 Fear

I learnt to face my fears, I have one phobia and that's like the mother of others, its 'the fear of the unknown', I wrote this on a sticky note and placed it on wall. I stared at it every night, I got depressed by it, so I gave myself some pep talk which mostly included Bible confessions. Then I meditate on how to overcome this fear, this as time went on, I discovered that life is all about trials and errors, so caring about the unknown is actually fruitless. I realized that I  may be the first to try out something but that, does not mean that I will be the last.

Love

I also learnt to love my self. Most people on this journey have issues with their self esteem, they lack self worth and confidence. The best thing I did was to retrace my memory to when I had so much confidence in my capabilities; then I jotted down what was different from then and now and I started making the necessary changes.

Observation

I learnt to study my self, I studied how I react to people - friends, colleagues and family, situations and things. Then, I developed myself by renewing my thoughts- i tried to be optimisticat all times, then I read books on how to handle people and conversations and learnt best ways to be better.

New Things

After carrying out all those steps, I began to notice some nice things about myself, I didn't know or felt before. I started craving for an audience or let's just say an attention. So, what I did was to try out new things. First, I started volunteering for a NGO, then I learnt to swim. For the record, I was once Aquaphobic but not anymore.

Just so you know, some people may see you as being idle when you start your journey to self discovery but I want you to see it as an interphase, a resting stage where you are accumulating energy and the momentum that you didn't know you had but you're just finding out that it's being there all along.