When Someone Dies

 There were instances when I read about death and the dead yet a 7 minutes fiction story on a beautiful insightful representation from a particular writer under the Granta guise who believed to have a logical explanation using storytelling to illustrate the Death custom was eye-opening. I don't remember her name precisely but she wrote a lot about her character's feelings and she also described their regrets. My take from what have read and also from the happenings around me poked me to write this piece.

When someone dies, we mostly react in whatever way our temperament dignifies with specific on how the corpse is related to us. I remember when someone very remarkable perished on my birthday, it was heartbreaking and strangely weird. I collectively nursed the feeling of revulsion,  towards celebrating another. From then on, my birthday became a day, just like any other day. I felt there was no grateful significance for why I should be happy when someone had to die on that date. Truthfully, I still do even though I have come to a knowledgeable understanding that, it wasn't in any way healthy. 

Dealing with the grief, I realized that every date is just a day but we tend to hold sentiments to what this day stands for. Hence marking out calenders to Remember. 

When someone dies, we rewind, replay, reminisce on the last time we had come in contact with that person. Looking for closure, we also try to recall dialogues and signs of the diseased, to find out why what happened, happened and how one can find peace by doing anything we had pledged to do. To some, it's a process the mind works on it's like an affirmation of the presence of the news after having an understanding. 

Happiness and joy are interwoven with unhappiness so also is living laced with dying. 

A child is brought into this world in only one way- that's through the womb. Ironically, there are many ways in which one could leave this world. Digressing a bit, you will wonder if the mortality rate is escalating. No, it's not. Our creator, God the All-Wise is that calculating. He made the world in such a way that there is a balance. That's probably why, when someone dies the world doesn't stand still, it doesn't stop it just keeps moving. The sun will continue to bring out its scorchingness in all its glory, the traffic will move swiftly like an accident did not happen previously on the same route. A good day just seems to appear when you wished you had woken up to a gloomy sky or heavy rain falling by your window or just any disaster. 

 

When someone dies it's like God is using such a moment to teach us some truths, to humble us. We need to know and understand Why, even though it might take some time for us to and simply not to question WHY? Believe me, I know there are still a lot of questions to ask especially when in anger. I do remember when a very highly appraised individual in my close circle of friends died,

"I was shocked!" was an understatement. It took me months to be NORMAL again. I couldn't write for a long while even though writing was one of the things that keeps me sane. I questioned, I became thoughtful, quiet thinking -why. When I got my answers, the healing started. I realized I was privileged despite my shortcomings and inadequacies. That is called GRACE. Everybody has it and it also runs out. 

A reminder is, "we can't continue in sin and pray that grace would abound…"
I understood a lot about time and life. It is Short.

To cap it all, when someone dies, you need to examine yourself- what do I need to do, what am I supposed to be working on, your life- where am I really lacking, is my life worth inspiring and your stand in God- how well do I know God, do I really commune with him personaly.

When someone dies, they also give account. You see we are all going to give our own account one-day like those who had gone before us. So while we make merry and forget our sorrow let's not forget who will spend eternity with.