How can I Forgive and still act normal with the person

What a way to put it, isn't it? Forgiveness is one phenomenon, some people especially Christians find it hard to do, It might be easy to say 'I have forgiven you' but acting it out that is a lot of work.

It's true there are many bad, very bad things people do to one another and forgiveness does not cut it, but God wants us to operate on that stand to forgive one another

Let me say this, any time ,you find yourself in a worst case scenario, bad things happen, but the misery why it happens to you is one of the things we can't really comprehend….natural disaster happens but why does it keep occurring, science may explain its occurrence or why, but it keeps happening. I might digress a bit, why do bad things happen? Does God even exist? He does. Look at this, from this angle, there are Barbers right?, they shave beards and do hair cut. Why is it that some people don't shave their hair, because maybe they don't want to, hence, they don't need Barbers. So...why won't bad things happen especially when we don't need God, since we can do good, what about bad things right? , just saying. 

Back to our matter…

 Why was the earth flooded in the time of Noah, there were reasons placed with our understanding of the scripture but at the end after that grieving pestilence the dove found a branch of fig leaflets, it creates an imagery that at the end of the day the flower blooms, it's like saying the good still prevails.

Forgiveness makes the good prevail, it won't let bitterness delude us. Bitterness is a collective term given to a set of issues that result from unforgiveness, when we have bitterness in us, it's like we are having a cancerous sickness in our spirit. What happens if cancer is not easily detected and proper treatment is not administered then the patient life becomes death-threatening, unless a miracle happens. So, such is the case, with a spirited cancerous sickness the mind will be affected when that happens the body won't be left out, those three are bound together, hence a physical sickness that even drugs or doctors diagnosis won't find a solution too.

Forgiveness is crucial to our living healthy. Mehn! I know that it is not easy to forgive and just forget, I certainly wonder how Jesus does it, do you remember Mandela too, that's like on another level.

But, we could try...Accepting Jesus as our Lord and Saviour gives us that leverage to do so. Tell him, you want him in your heart to stay and to cleanse you of these ache and bitterness..Tell him, you want him to teach you how to forgive.

That's just it, I believe, when you listen to that dovelike voice tell you what to do, then you'll notice changes, people will too.